Toxic Relationship

Like a shiny red apple laced with cyanide, delicious enough to eat, but poisonous to consume. This type of relationship will make you sick…or worst, cause your death. Like most toxic relationships they tend to be all the same, promising to make things right the second or the hundredth time around — only to have those hopes smashed into pieces too small to put back together. But, you will make excuses for them, because that’s what you do. Over the years convincing yourself that this person is the only one for you, all the while doubting your choices and losing your sense of self in the process.

Oh, the Compromise!

To compromise is to sacrifice and, in a world, where everything is about “me, me, me” most individuals are too selfish to put other people’s considerations above their own. Self-sacrifice is an attribute that often contributes to a successful relationship, but this is not it. This relationship is lopsided, one-half sacrifices and the other half is non-compromising! A telltale sign that it was doomed from the start. You make excuses for them because your so in love, except that it’s not love, but more “in love” with the idea of them. Love is about compromising and without it, there is an open space which leaves room for toxicity in any relationship

The stress of it all

Pacing back and forth, checking the phone every time you think it lit up when you look away, because you are too occupied with stress over the fact that your lover is coming home late again. This person has done this before, you know they get off from work at 11 and now it’s 15 minutes past 3am, their job is only 20 minutes away from home. Math doesn’t add up, but your suspicion does. You go into a panic and the stress of it all is like weights on the chest causing severe anxiety, because you know they are cheating on you again and this is not the first time and it won’t be the last. But you will make excuses for them, because that’s what you do. Of course, you will first confront them about your suspicions when they finally arrive back home, both of you will engage in a pointless argument, only to make up in the morning. The stress keeps you from sleeping, all the while your cheating lover is having a good night’s rest. Something about this unparalleled effect seems to benefit one half of the relationship, when in comparison to a healthy relationship where both individuals benefit in a positive way. It’s all for naught, because the stress will be suppressed so that you can hold on a little longer to this relationship filled with lies.

Your self-esteem is on the brinks!

A long-term bad relationship has now cause self-doubt within yourself. It has caused low self-esteem and feelings of rejection, making you feel unattractive and unwanted. Pinching your cheeks in the mirror when you haven’t even gained an ounce, all because this person has told you you’re getting too fat. In the meantime, you maintain a healthy diet, exercise regularly, and even upgraded your wardrobe…none of it matters because your significant other always have eyes for someone else. Moreover, this toxic relationship hinders personal growth and with passing time limits the potential of finding someone better. Instead of feeling supported and encouraged to pursue goals and aspirations, you feel stifled and held back by the negativity of the partnership. A cycle of unhappiness and stagnation, preventing oneself from reaching full capabilities. Your self-esteem is tied to your self-worth, and both have been severely diminished.

Let me get to the point...

“Say goodbye to this toxic relationship and find inner strength. You deserve someone who not only nourishes your soul but fill your heart with joy!”